Wowsie, what a thread.
We are all really different, aren't we. Different in how we think and feel and process, and of course different in what stage we're at right now with our eyes (and heads).
Some of you right now will benefit most from the terrific examples of others on the board with outstandingly positive attitudes and relentless practical troubleshooting, and just knowing that others can and do live well and happily, somehow or other, despite their personal variation on the chronic dry eye theme.
Some of you will benefit most from pure empathy unadorned with advice. I know that place. Intimately.
Some can benefit from advice on dealing with the physiological side of depression. Some can't, at least right now, because the emotional side is just different for them.
What jax8it said is still kind of reverberating through my mind "...realizing that others feel the same as I do (e.g., dryeyes4ever) is what helps, goggles aside." .
Makes me think of a lengthy period of my life when I was struggling to keep my head above water, coming to grips with family health issues. During that period no matter how sound the advice was, sorry, I just couldn't have done the stuff. If I'd ever talked about that fact to an outsider they would have thought I was nuts because I appeared to be pouring about five people worth of energy into other directions, professionally or even websites like this but yet the fact was I could not scrape together one measly ounce of energy for my personal wellbeing in any of the direct ways that anyone would have been likely to recommend if they had known where I was at. It took years, literally, to work up what felt like a superhuman effort to accomplish one or two things which might just sound to all of you like such easy no-brainers. For me, it just was what it was. I was where I was. Beating myself over the head about it only compounded matters.
In retrospect I sure wish there had been someone near me with the wisdom to say, "You know, given what you've been through, I totally get why you feel like this and I want you to know it's OK to feel that way right now. I am sorry you are in that place. It's so hard. I've seen how people come through it so I'm confident you won't stay there forever but for now, let yourself grieve. You really do not need to feel obliged to somehow magically 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps'. " It's that retrospective that makes me want everyone who is hurting to get that message when they need it.
Anyway, for all of you, whatever your need, I hope you're able to glean from these pages whatever bits help meet your present need and let the rest drift on by, knowing that everyone who contributes really cares and is giving the best of themselves to help.
The Dry Eye Zone