Hi and welcome. I wish I could help you on the glasses-wearing thing but I've always found guys in glasses incredibly attractive, esp when we were all in 6th form and college. It's the whole ruffled hair, slightly vulnerable, charming, serious, cut above the rest, intelligent-looking thing. And now there are too many sexy styles to choose from, esp designer prescription sunglasses. Everyone is wearing them to get taken seriously at work and look successful and fab, particularly gorgeous with a suit, tie, or even better, no tie... Maybe someone else can do this...
When LM chooses fashionable frames she checks out the shop assistant to see what they look like in theirs so we get good advice on eg face shape. We travel a few miles to our favourite optician because that's the one we feel comfortable with and we know is on our side style-wise, not just flogging the old stock. Obviously the best are not the most expensive. It is seriously possible to get an image upgrade with good glasses out and about, I promise you. I wonder if this is the key for you, a good professional kind optometrist assistant. The nice ones would love helping you with this and if you say you feel a bit vulnerable about the whole thing, they'll be falling over themselves to help you find happy. You need someone genuinely on your side since it's a bit of a re-style, whether you take a friend or go alone. It's good to study people in the street, mags, tv etc who have a personal style you like and recognise so you can develop your own look.
Believe me, you have lots of options. Plugs are normal in the UK BTW, you just need a good ophth or sensible dry eye optometrist for some advice on what would help. We use drops when we need them, otherwise not (they're chemicals not tears, of course they affect the eye, but make sure they're preservative free, Mari's Hycosan range has been good for us, also various PF vials).
I assume laser surgery would be a disaster with dry eye and, currently (until the medico-legal boys catch up with them), they wouldn't have the incentive to tell you this or maybe even the skill to know (I've never understood what happens as you age, surely the vision changes again). The top US eye microsurgeons are all wearing glasses, they trust no one, and cannot accept the risk.
If you still have dry eye when you're not wearing lenses, it's worth a private dry eye ophthalmologist consultation (£130ish), better than money on contacts that are giving you dry red eyes. Even if the opticians were up to speed on the latest hydrogel lenses for increased comfort, as they call them, you can't wear them all the time. It's so important to look after your eyes. It'd be good to hear that you've maybe got some gorgeous prescription sunglasses to wear out and about as a start now we've got snow.
We know about depression here so keep posting and do not hesitate to see the GP when needed. If you've got access to school/college counselling, use it now. How's work and study and trying new good things and having fun going? Love, LM's mum
Last edited by littlemermaid; 07-Feb-2012 at 12:28.
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